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Am I being unreasonable?

8 replies

SJD80 · 26/12/2018 23:59

I posted on here sometime ago about my
DH leaving me blah blah....anyway we worked it out kind of but the relationship has been very strained.

He makes a song and dance about not wanting to fight and wanting to get back on track but then pull stupid stunts like tonight.

He went out at 1.30pm to watch the football. Not all day just one match. He then indicated he would be home at 7. He is still out @11.30pm and is ignoring my texts and calls.

The issues I have is I don't like his friends (drugs) and we are going away tomorrow. He has this expectation that I will take care of the kids despite them all being his and only one being mine. It drives me crazy and it's not the first time hes done this. I feel like I just want to walk away because I can't take the mind games anymore. Am I being unreasonable?

OP posts:
Oldstyle · 27/12/2018 00:20

No YANBU.

crappyday2018 · 27/12/2018 00:54

My ex used to do this. That’s partly why he’s an ex. I’m not sure why you got back together as it sounds like he’s making no effort whatsoever. He’s doing whatever he fancies with no consideration or thought for you at all. So, no urnbu

Karenspolos · 27/12/2018 01:01

Drugs. That’s who his primary relationship is with. You’re just the other woman. I really feel for you. Flowers

tittietinsel · 27/12/2018 01:16

I don't like his friends (drugs)

His friends are not the problem. If he is taking drugs he is almost certainly doing it because he wants to. Don't offer him an excuse by blaming other people.

Changedname3456 · 27/12/2018 08:13

He sounds like a dick. Definitely taking you for granted.

GColdtimer · 27/12/2018 08:16

He will not change. He treats you with contempt. It sounds like you are there to look after his kids.

Sorry OP but don't throw your life away in this man.

FinallyHere · 27/12/2018 08:27

Wot @twofalls said ^ this. Sorry

rainbowstardrops · 27/12/2018 08:43

He sounds like a selfish arse. I wouldn't tolerate it.

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