My first post on here, all advice welcome and appreciated. I got divorced earlier this year after my ex broke the news last year that he no longer wanted to be married to me. I had to leave our home and now have my own home which I have lived in for almost a year. I never wanted to get divorced and was heart broken. Since living on my own we have always maintained contact and a few months ago we decided to try to make things work and got back together. We carried on living separately and saw each other on evenings and weekends. I started to realise that he hasn’t changed and is still as self centred and mean as before. I did see these behaviours when we were married however my desire to remain as a family meant I used to put up with being treated badly which I can see now. He is finding it very difficult on his own and I am a nurturer, always fixing his problems. I now realise that the old life is gone and it really is time to move on but he won’t let me. I get numerous texts saying that he misses me. He is very down and negative all the time about life in general and it’s making me miserable too. I have thought about staying together for his sake but that would only make me unhappy. It’s so hard to move on when someone is always telling you they need you. He is making me feel responsible for his life. I haven’t blocked his messages and calls, it just feels cruel. Does anyone have any advice or experience of this and if so, how did you handle it? Thank you in advance, sorry couldn't add paragraphs