What to do

[C0rdelia]

Fuck off media leaches. Years ago I saw a solicitor about a divorce and within days, coincidentally, my husband had a stroke. 2 years later he had another stroke and life has been a little difficult.

I booked an appointment for a solicitor in January and he has fallen and hit his head. I want out but now I will look so cruel when really I wanted a divorce a long time ago. Help!

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Media leeches.

Send him on his way or put him in s home depending on severity of the stroke and crack on with the divorce?

Or stay in a miserable marriage out of a sense of duty?

Do you have children at home?
Does he require additional care in his everyday life? If so, have you looked into what help is avaliable?

If you live your life based on what other people might say/think about you, you are never going to be happy. Because people are judgemental twats and whatever you do, you're always going to piss someone off

I don't want you ignored but have no direct experience! It seems to me that you should just forge on with the divorce if you had good grounds originally. There's no reason why your life should be one of sacrifice to a man you don't want to be with.

You don't need anyone's permission to leave.

If he has fallen and hit his head, and you want to wait for a few weeks until any bruising is gone/he is recovered, do so but don't feel obliged to.

If you are waiting for his recovery for a few weeks: In the meantime, see a solicitor, get your ducks in a row, open a separate bank account, figure out what you will do re living arrangements etc and then when he is OK again, just go.

No need to wait though - your friends and family will wait to hear your truth first before judging. No one leaves a marriage on a whim.

Thank you. No one has told me to stay.

Brand new grandchild so another reason to suck it up and stay.