I’m on here as I feel down in my relationship with my partner of 10 years. We have two children, one of whom just turned two years.
I feel my partner is a selfish person. He met me when he was unemployed and still living with his parents. I got pregnant within three months of our relationship and he moved into my own flat within six months and we have lived together ever since.
We’ve had many arguments over his relationship with alcohol but I have supported him. He has studied whilst I’ve supported him and he now has a job working three days a week as he looks after our youngest child the other two days. I’ve always worked full time including overtime.
I feel he doesn’t appreciate what I do. I managed to rent my flat and worked hard to get us a house. He didn’t contribute towards the purchase or renovation of the house but he does give me a monthly contribution towards the children, bills and mortgage.
All I seem to do his work, cook, look after the kids during the weekends and clean leaving me exhausted. He says I’m always grumpy and don’t give him enough sex. I say I’m just tired which is the truth but then he says it’s my fault for getting myself into debt with buying a house and things for the house. He says that I should consult him when doing things to the house such as spending £2K on wooden floors but my argument is that I’m not asking him to contribute towards anything financially for the floors or making the house look nice. I just work hard to pay of off. We are not in debt that I can’t afford to pay off every month.
He gets annoyed as he doesn’t like me working overtime as he wants me to get back home from work on time so he can go to the gym.
I really didn’t want to spend Boxing Day arguing with him. We just don’t agree on anything and I feel he has no appreciation for what I do.
Should I consult him on financial decisions on the house if he’s not contributing? Sorry for the long post and rant, I just feel upset.