Online dating advice if looking for serious relationship

[bathsh3ba]

I'm divorced and have been single for four years. 36 and very overweight, two kids, really not an obvious catch on the surface.

I've tried OLD in the past but backed off after being overwhelmed by the number of guys clearly after a quick hook up. Dated one guy for about two months in that time but in the end he told me he was seeing someone else and liked her better.

The complicating factor is that I don't just not want a hook up (been celibate 4 years and honestly don't miss the sexual side of things) but, ultimately I want marriage and I have decided due to my Christian beliefs that I won't have sex with anyone until/unless I marry again. I don't want to rush into marriage, happy to date for a few years first but ultimately that is the end goal. Now I know a lot of men will be put off by the celibacy and in many ways it would be a lot easier and fairer to date a Christian who also believes that. But they seem in short supply. I tried a Christian dating site but all the men who show interest live a very long way away or I just don't feel a connection.

I don't really know where to start, does anyone have advice on what site to try and if I should mention the celibacy in my profile?

I don't know the name of any sites, but my friend got himself 2 wives on Christian dating sites, and his current one matches your description, so there are guys out there who wouldn't be put off

It's probably a good idea to set your stall out ahead of time. If you're a bit before marriage person, don't waste both of your time by talking to people who will expect other things.

Would you not consider yourself asexual? Because the way your op reads, you don't want sex and have decided to hang that choice on the convenient hook of your religious beliefs, beliefs which the majority of Christians in the UK would disagree.

You'll have to reconsider Christian dating sites I think. Asexual dating might also suit you if you think you could be comfortable without sex for the long term.

No, I'm not asexual and it is a position taken by lots of Christians and a decision I came to through discussion with my Anglican vicar.

Maybe I will keep trying the Christian sites.