Taken my ex back

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I feel so alone
I took my ex back last year and in my head it wasn't the right thing to do
But my heart felt different
The reasons we split were at the time good enough but when we were apart I missed him and I did try to move on but when he contacts me it felt wrong to not talk to him
I feel sad and insecure but I'm wondering if that's not entirely his fault
Deep down I don't feel he has fully appreciated how hurt I was and feel he just papered over the cracks
Then when we argue I don't feel anything's changed
He was moody which led to us arguing and he made bad decisions about money, which means we couldn't move forward with buying a house and now I feel stuck
I know the advice is I'm not stuck
But I feel it and I don't know what to do
I have a lo from a previous marriage and I just feel I'm young enough to start again and although I'm scared my heads telling me it's the right thing
I love him, I wanted to be with him but I just feel ever so sad
Guess I just needed to post to get some advice and support
I feel very low
Thank you

Sorry your going through this OP, sounds so tough, I left my partner of 10 yrs just 3 weeks ago and I feel so lost. I’ve had some really good advice from fellow musmnetters saying that when a relationship (particularly abusive) comes to an end you’ve been on a rollercoaster for a long time during the relationship it’s the highs and lows and you get addicted to this, you crave the highs and when your so low you live with hope waiting for the highs. But it’s really not healthy.

What were the reason for your split? Are they still there?

Hi thanks for your reply
Sorry to hear you are also going through this
Yes I can relate to the highs and lows
There's many reasons, he kept secrets about money, works for too much and never has any work life balance, when he gets into his moods he strops and acts like a child
I don't feel secure or in a stable relationship
When it's good it's really good but it never lasts more than a month
When it's bad we are very toxic
I can't seem to firgive or forget the hurt
He's with his family and I'm with mine
I feel sad lost and lonely
My lo is having a great time and I'm painting on a smile but inside I feel like a pain in my stomach
X

Hello sorry to read your story. Have you split with him? If so take it one day at a time and be kind to yourself. You and your lo deserve to be happy. Relationships are meant to enrich you and it doesnt sound like this one does. Wishing you well

You can never go back to the green. You know deep down what the right decision is. I know it's painful, but you need to wake up and become strong, Don't waste years on someone who makes you feel this way. You can do this OP! [flowers0