Anniversary gift that I hate. HELP!

[KikoS]

Hi Lovelies,

What would you do/ how would you tell your husband that you hate the wedding anniversary gift?
Husband gave me a set of necklace and ear rings from Swarovski that I hate. It actually made me sad that after 8th years of marriage and he still doesn't get my taste.

How can I tell him that I don't like them and I'd better return them and make use of the money to buy sth else.

help please.

Kiko

You sound ungrateful to me, sorry!

OP no need to be sad or angry. There have been times I bought something I thought my husband would love but he didn’t. Sometimes people fuck up.
Unless there are other issues, just accept he fucked up, tell him and move on.

I do think it's a bit odd about how much you're reading into this. He tried and got it wrong. I've done that with presents before now and so has my DH. But I do recognise the thought and effort that's gone into a present. Unless there is a huge back story here of how he always ignores your opinions, I think you're making a mountain out of a molehill. Just say you really appreciate the gesture, but it's not to your taste and you'd like to go and choose something else together.

I also hate the whole idea of 'dropping hints'! Just tell him exactly what you want. I send my immediate family including DH a list of things I would like for Christmas.

Why is it ungrateful to have personal preferences? I was bought spmething this year, not jewellery but cost about £100. I haven't asked for it, not at all interested but I know he bought it because of a comment I made about not knowing anything about x. So he bought me x. I don't know anything about it because I'm not interested and will not use this gift so it's wasted money. I really want to tell him but am hesitating because he did put thought into it, just got it wrong. I think after 8 years I'd be disappointed if my H didn't know my taste and got it so wrong and I would have to say something, but nicely and in a way that shows you do appreciate that he tried, but that you'd rather something more 'everyday'.

I think you are making a much bigger deal of this than it needs to be. He was probably worried about getting something you would like and is now feeling awful about it. Some people jsut aren't that good at choosing jewellery, I don't think you should make it all about your relationship.

I really want to see which ones they are!

Costa coffeecup

Here they are