What do you think of this?

[SausageSimon]

I've had a close friend for a couple of years now, we originally met through 2-3 dates where he liked me but I decided he wasn't for me. We've ended up being great friends but now I'm wondering whether it'll stay that way!

I had a dream about him last week where we were kissing and ever since I haven't been able to stop thinking about him. He came to a family party over Christmas and he looked incredibly handsome which hasn't helped at all! It felt like I was seeing him in a new light.

Most of the reasons why I originally thought we weren't suitable have faded out, I think he's matured and his less attractive qualities aren't as bad. And now I'm left thinking about how kind he is, thoughtful, great to his family and reliable. I can't really think of anything bad apart from he can talk you to death at times

Now I'm worried I'm falling for him and he will no longer be on the same page, but then when I think about it I'm his only female friend and he happily comes to family parties as my plus one! He's even coming out with me and my parents in the new year for drinks in a local village and I feel it could be significant, maybe?!

It could also be nothing and he just sees me as a friend, but being his only female friend does make me wonder.

Your opinions would be lovely! My mind is allover the shop!

I think life is short; there's no harm in trying to have a shot at seeing if there is something more there 😍

Thanks @surlycurly it's hit me like a tonne of bricks if I'm honest! It's just come out of the blue, my mums always suggested there being something between us and I've always honestly said no I'm not interested. But now I'm bloody interested!

You have nothing to loose, life is one big adventure and needs to be lived. He already sounds interested in you. Good luck.

Wondering whether when we have our night out might be the time to pounce test the waters?!

Go for it OP!

What are his bad features?

I would say go for it.... Better to live a life without regrets than thinking what if.

@HollowTalk The bad quality that used to annoy me most was that he used to argue for the sake of it, not nasty arguments but if I said something was black he'd say white we used to have long debates in my car! But he's stopped being so argumentative, I think he's just grown up a bit over the past year or so! There are a couple of other minor things but nothing worth a mention!

His good points are he's big on family, he's great with kids (he's a primary school teacher), thoughtful, very reliable, funny, loves dogs (this is a must for me ), quite practical and sensible, motivated and attractive.

Give him a stethoscope, shove the business end in your knickers and ask him if he can hear clippety clop sounds. Then make him sponge cake. Men like sponge cake.

My DH used to do the arguing thing when we first met too. I think it's the adult equivalent of boys poking or tripping up the girls they fancy when they're at school .

I'd go for it. As I say, the man who was like this to me is my DH and we've been together for 20 years.

I met a chap on my lunch break at work as we'd been set up as a 'blind date' as such.... went back to work and said 'Ergh, no, don't fancy him but lovely bloke, we shall stay friends'
Went on a 'second date' as such, rocked up with no make up on, been sun bathing all day, oversized shorts and jumper looking a right scruff and all of a sudden sat in a pub garden and fancied the hell out of him, I actually felt myself blushing which had never happened before.

We now have a 16 month year old, and I'm due with our second baby in Feb, we've bought a house together and I've never been so happy.

GO FOR IT!!!!!!

@showmeshoyu that is the perfect way to go about it  I'm sure he'd hear a lot of galloping! I'll get a cake baked for good measure

@SherlockHolmes that's made me feel so much better to hear that your DH was the same! It's made me quite excited 

@littleleeleanne that's so lovely, I bet you could've kicked yourself for turning up like a scruff! clearly it didn't put him off through, I love to hear of happy couples like that! Congratulations on your lovely children too