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Making friends in the new year

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IAmAlwaysLikeThis · 24/12/2018 21:00

I actually have quite a lot of friends but they’re all scattered all over the place and they’re not really ‘close’ close friends. I’d love to be able to have dinner parties or go for group holidays but none of my friends really know each other and we live in a big city so quite hard to meet up regularly.

How can I make better friendships in the new year? I volunteer and stuff already but just find it hard to move things to the next level.

OP posts:
Travisandthemonkey · 24/12/2018 22:37

I’m where you are! I would love to know.
All of my friends are totally scattered now.
I would love to have dinner parties

Doobee · 24/12/2018 23:12

I just want one close friend who I can go shopping with and other trips out. It’s my 2019 resolution!

AnaViaSalamanca · 24/12/2018 23:15

mine too. love to hear your strategies.

Travisandthemonkey I was actually reading an article that hosting dinner parties is one of the best ways to make friends. Not sure where to start though.

thisusernameisrubbish · 25/12/2018 01:03

Personally as a single mum who runs a business where I only work with animals, lives in an area with no family or friends I found the gym to be a good way to meet people - and instagram. Sounds weird but so many people from my gym are on instagram, that i've made some local friends. My new years resolution is to make more friends, so I'm thinking of joining a different fitness class, It sounds so strange about Instagram but if you start following people who live in your area that use local hashtags you may make friends that way. It is tough, but actually so many more people than you think don't actually have that many friends.

pissedonatrain · 25/12/2018 01:55

one of my NY resolutions. Once I get moved, I'll join some new activities to try to make new friends.

Goldensunnydays81 · 25/12/2018 02:00

I joined book club a year ago, a couple of friends but then other people have joined friends of friends and it has been lovely! We are planning an away trip next year! And it normally ends up with about 20mins of book talk and loads of chatting and giggling!

Mehrry · 25/12/2018 06:53

Have you heard of meetup.com OP? Plenty of groups on there. Some are general ones by location, others are for interests in locations

OliviaStabler · 25/12/2018 07:08

I was going to suggest meetup.com too. Loads of different groups that meet up and cover so many different activities and hobbies.

SpikyHedgehogg · 25/12/2018 07:16

I felt like this in 2014 and joined a Meet Up group for women over 30. That’s long since disbanded but I have a good group of five friends from it. We go on trips away, get out and about together or just around to each other’s houses. We’ve also supported each other through some tough times.

SnuggyBuggy · 25/12/2018 07:26

I think it's hard. I remember reading this daft article about how to make friends and it crapped on about throwing a wine and cheese party. I remember thinking that if I had people who I could invite to a wine and cheese party I wouldn't be complaining about having no friends.

I think your best bet is to make friends with someone who is already well connected and be accepted into a group. Not sure how best to bring that about.

Snog · 25/12/2018 08:08

Go to a group from meetup and ask someone for a coffee after.
Repeat if necessary until you find new bf

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