Another Christmas, another failed relationship. Anyone for a hand hold?

[Oldlakewilsonroad]

This morning my partner of 9 years told me that’s our relationship is over. I’m due to go out tonight with my kids and friends (partner isn’t coming now) but all I want to do is hide under the duvet and cry. This isn’t the first time he’s tried to end it, but this time I’m not going to fight to save it. I’m too emotionally and mentally exhausted. Anyone else out there who wants a virtual hand hold, step this way....

He'll probably be really pissed off that you're not fighting to save it. Let him go and don't beg him to stay. I'm so sorry he's picked such a crap time to do this - do you think he's going to someone else?

It takes a special sort of arsehole to end a relationship on Christmas Eve. What a rotten thing to do.

Cancel tonight, say you've got a migraine and cuddle up on the sofa with your kids and watch a good film.

So sorry to hear Oldlakewilsonroad. I'm in the same boat, partner/ hus of 16 years ended our relationship of 16 years to start afresh with someone I know (Karma, please roast both of these people in hell, slowly). It's shitty timing. Wallow in it for a while but then you have to live your life. Easier said than done. Just know that this time next year you will be in a better place. Oh, eat lots of mince pies and get totally trolleyed in Baileys or whatever your Christmas tipple of choice is.

I was dumped on Tuesday after losing my job on Monday. Many sympathies xxx

He's done it tonight for maximum attention seeking. My ex used to ruin every Christmas similarly until last Christmas I told him yes that's a good idea let's split once and for all. I'm very happy without him now.
Call his bluff, go to your party and tell him you'll sort out the full separation details in the new year.
Please don't let him ruin another Christmas

What a dick. Also suspect his timing is designed to make you beg for his company though.

With the end comes a sort of relief. Especially if he has used it as a threat previously.
A new beginning is an exciting time op.
Xxx

I would not have this one back, hold onto this feeling for future reference

Mine left again in November but last year he waltzed off on the 17th December and I stupidly took him back due to his begging in January.

I am feeling thoroughly shit today but last Christmas was exactly the same.

What sort of dickhead does that on Christmas Eve?

Go out with your kids and friends if you possibly can. I think you will feel better.

Thank so much to everyone who’s taken the time and trouble to respond. I’m so sorry to hear that there are others in the same boat. In a strange way I was hoping that no one would respond as all the other relationships IRL were more successful than mine!!

For those that have said don’t have him back, ill keep reading this whenever I have s moment of weakness and consider trying to persuade him to stay.

Hollow - I don’t think there’s anyone else.

Fanny - I find mince pies are the answer to everything at Christmas