Not sure if I'm being unreasonable ... I have 2 DDs, 2.5 and 1 year old. It's been a difficult time as they were so close in age, we have no family nearby, I left a job that I absolutely loved and struggled with the isolation of mat leave. We recently decided to move closer to family for support, which I do think was the right decision. However, I am still not feeling like I get the support from my partner that I need ... he is not in any way proactive with DDs. Sure, I can leave them with him and take a break when he is given clear instruction, but he shows no initiative.
Never once has he instigated a day out, even a suggested to take them to the park, only feeds them when I ask him to, in the morning he doesn't dress them unless I lay out the clothes and remind him to do it. If I ask why he didn't dress them, he says 'why didn't you ask me to', 'well you didn't remind me' .. if he forgets to give them in a drink in the day he never apologises, just says 'no, i forgot. It's not a big deal'. It is a big deal to give them a drink if he has them with him all day!? Surely that's a basic requirement of parenting?
I always feel like I'm the person in charge of everything and it is becoming draining. We haven't been on holiday because I have to plan every detail of it - I can't even leave one element up to my partner .. if he is in charge of packing the car he forgets important things (on trips to visit family he has forgotten to pack travel cots and changing bags etc.) We struggle to get along on a personal level because I just don't feel like he pulls his weight and it's made me see him in a different light. I'm sure other fathers are proactive and seem to enjoy time spent with their children - he behaves as if it is all chore.
I feel like I would be much happier without him, but we aren't married and I'm very worried how I would keep a roof over our head - do unmarried partners have any rights in the event of a split, are fathers required to pay something towards accommodation for their children? So sorry for the ramble ... I feel very trapped in a miserable situation. Maybe this is normal and I am just expecting too much.