New relationship sex - does it get better?

[Snowballs4ever]

I've been dating a man I met on OLD for about two months. We've slept together twice. Both times have been ok, but a bit boring, no real passion. He may have some ED too, which maybe is nerves related. My last relationship we had great sex.

Has anyone found sex getting much better as the relationship progressed? He seems like a good guy and always makes sure I enjoy it and orgasm. I just don't find that I'm wanting to tear his clothes off or anything, maybe I will in time.

If you fancy him but the sex is so so then I would give it a chance. But you would need to be a bit obvious/explicit about what you like maybe. He might be a bit shy and get better the more confident he gets. If you give it some time show him what you like and he doesn’t up his game then you will know you have it a chance.

I think if the spark isn’t there in the first place then it’s not going to get better with time. Sounds like you’re just not matched.

One of my past relationships there was no sexual spark, but we got on well and like you hoped the sex would improve in time. It didn’t, and in the end I couldn’t be arsed to have sex with him. relationship didn’t last long.

The first time I had sex with my DH it wasn't great but there was a definite spark and we grew very quickly into knowing each other's likes and dislikes etc, I'd be worried if it was bad and there was no passion.

I think sex does get better in a relationship because you both get to know what each other likes/dislikes, how to be touched etc. However ime if the sex isn’t great at the outset it very rarely is later in the relationship.

Good sex for me is vital for a healthy relationship, I wouldn’t be able to continue in a relationship if the sex were not great (I know I sound shallow).

It’s a good sign that he makes you climax and is interested in doing so I think. Perhaps give it a little more time. As for the ED, it really could be nerves but if it’s not there’s medication he can take.