Advice needed - can I get past this?

[Ni58]

How long does it take to get over a betrayal? I agreed to let him try to repair the damage but it’s been nearly a year and I still feel sick every day. I feel like it’s all forgotten for him but if I bring it up, it leads to a horrible period of angst where I just end up feeling worse. I can’t do another year like this. I know I’m not making much sense but I’ve tried to write a post many times and I can’t seem to be coherent.

Actually when a person cheats it is all about them, not in any way is it about their partner. It is about their selfishness and what they want at that given moment. I think insinuating that it is about their partner is akin to victim blaming (something a lot of people who have affairs try to do too)

@Newerversion
That’s sort of what i meant. Not that it’s about their spouse in a victim blaming way. But it’s about how little they really care or respect their spouse.