Ok dear people, I need some advise here. We've been seeing each other since May this year, and during the summer, we saw each other twice or more a week, went on a mini staycation in the New Forest in September, but things started dwindling after the mini break and we saw each other less... no rows, nothing of the sort. To cut long story short, when I demanded answers for the weird development in our relationship, he blamed it on his anxiety state of mind (which is totally understandable as one can't help situation as mental health), and he eventually said he was scared that his ex girlfriend would run away with his two sons to Spain as a punishment if she found out he was seeing someone else... Now that threw me off guard. Anyway, he is currently spending Christmas at his "ex's" with his two sons and I'm sure he won't be back until the New Year , saying he might drive up North to see his mum and siblings and would most probably be going with his sons which would warrant his ex to tag along as the sons (6 and 3), always cry for their mum, that's why the boys wouldn't visit him at his in London, therefore he embarks every Sunday to visit them. My issues are;
- Why can't he sit down with his ex and have a civil conversation about his and her 'what next'? People move on in life or am I wrong here?
- I am spending Christmas on my own (with my DD who is 3), what would have been our first Christmas together?
- He tells me, there isn't anything going on with his ex and swore on his late dad's grave and there isn't any love lost as all they do is row whenever he visits.
In addition, I have had a serious conversation with him 3 days ago at his place, and asked him to sort himself out as I won't be having this all the time running to ex's to see the boys or the ex snapping her fingers and him running to hers, in 2019. I know he loves his boys to bits but if the ex has the upper hands when it comes to the boys, she needs to start talking them into visiting their dad at least.
It just breaks my heart knowing how beautiful everything was in the Summer, and the things he said that made me think he was a keeper, and now to me not even having access to him whenever he's at his ex's.
Please I need your input/ advise, as I really do not know what to think even though he keeps reassuring me he's faithful to me.