Is this physical abuse?

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My partner of 14 yrs find it’s amusing to poke me when I am cleaning in the kitchen. I have told him I don’t like it and to stop doing it. He obviously does it on purpose because he knows I don’t. He did it again today (after months) and doing it and I totally lost it with him. He says it’s a joke but he’s the only one laughing. He’s constantly in a bad mood and can’t cope with kids leaving me to always do everything with them. He doesn’t even bath them anymore. I feel like he is gaslighting me? Am I right?

Things escalated today. I was up this morning preparing Xmas things as I’m cooking for 10 tomorrow. He suddenly started shouting at me from upstairs saying I had over spent on his credit card. I explained I had used card to shop Friday and my card on Sunday. He proceeded to call me a liar. So I got both receipts that clearly show different cards used. I left them on the bed as he was getting a shower.
He came downstairs after the shower and again accused me of over spending. I came upstairs to get the receipts and they had disappeared. He is now refusing to give them to me. I refuse to give up asking and he won’t give them to me. When I ask where they are he says up my arse, but says I’m being childish asking for them. This is definitely about control am I right?

For god's sake why on earth are you with this totally childish idiot? He sounds like the worst of high school age wankers. If the money thing is that important the amounts will be online, but honestly do yourself a favour and get rid of him.

It’s not about that money anymore. He is keeping the receipts because for once I have out smarted him and he can’t bare it. I’m starting to push back, where I used to be apologetic. This is a power struggle. He really exposed himself and all I keep thinking about now is how I can leave him. He doesn’t deserve me or the kids. He can play his mind games on his own. I find it really weird

That is so controlling and weird. Things will not improve.

He is either really stupid or just a twat x

Typical abusive/narcissistic behaviour OP. It’s all about control. You’ve proved to him that he can’t abuse you about the shopping situation. He’ll conveniently forget about the receipts and it’ll be you made them up no doubt. You need to leave him op

Get the heck rid of him already!

and poke him hard in the penis see how he likes it