Those who are NC/LC with family, chatty Christmas thread.

[BlueCookieMonster]

Hello!!

I’m very low contact with DM as she is horrendous, and I can’t be bothered with the mind games anymore.

Anyway, as it’s Christmas I’m constantly getting asked if I’m seeing them etc etc. It is a bit wearing if I’m honest.

Thought others may be going through similar and fancy a place to congregate and chat through the festivities.

Yeah, in the same boat. It's my first Christmas being LC with my parents. It's a situation that's been building over the last few years and the last couple of months have just been the icing on the cake. It'll be the first Christmas ever that I haven't spent either the day itself or boxing day with them so it's going to be strange but I'm tired of always giving in. They don't bother with me or my kids all year but expect us to put on a big show of playing happy families at Christmas.

Sorry your going through this. I'm trying to avoid contact with my mother as no matter what I do/say it's the wrong thing. It's crap isn't it?

It is crap, but for me it was a freeing kind of decision. I kept telling myself that I was a grown adult and could make decisions however I wished.

However, it doesn't negate it being hard.

I'm dreading the inevitable phone call that's going to come from my mother today asking when we'll be up. I've already said it's not happening but I'm waiting for the guilt trip to start.

I've realised I've gone pretty low contact. We're having Christmas Day just as our own small family but then visiting and staying with the in laws then my parents and I'm quite anxious about it. They're at a distance so not easy to just pop in. Rang the day before yesterday and there's already a lot of guilt that we haven't gone down there already, despite us all being knackered from work and school. Neither set of parents are relaxing to visit and we do need to relax and enjoy the holidays too.

Damsom don’t feel guilty, it’s your Christmas as well. My Mum is a nightmare to hang out with, constant criticism.

Thank you, all prepped to have a nice day and hopefully let the guilt pass by. Merry Christmas all.

My brothers have stopped asking if I'll be seeing my folks they know it'll be a no :)

It's my first Christmas without my closest big brother,he died this year and his birthday would be in a few days. So this Christmas is hard and to be honest I can't be bothered with it but it'll get easier.

Hope you all have a good day whatever your plans are :x