What to think of this??

[Brightlygoingforward]

Hi.

I have a male friend who is a former colleague, we've both had his and downs this year, him professionally and me personslky. We moan to each other and meet up for coffee . He is married, I'm separated but no hint whatsoever if attraction. Haven't met his wife.
He texted me yesterday with a funny Gif and asked if I fancied a quick coffee in the supermarket cafe after finishing shopping. Ok (I've been advising him on a tricky work problem(.

I got this just now: 'hii btw wifewith tomorrow, couldn't exactly say no!' She doesn't trust me food shopping. Now I would like to meet her but the phrasing has made me feel weird and I'm not sure why, as if he thinks it's more than friendship - or that I think it is( i don't as numb from a cheating spouse. How to reply ???

Something along the lines of, that's fine by me, would be nice to meet her!
Then there's no suggestion from you that would feed any impropriety in his imagination.

Talking from experience she may want to meet you to sniff things out and make sure you’re not madly in love with him (or that he is with you) encourage her attendance, but he’s reaction to her wanting to go speaks volumes to me about his possible feelings for you. I gave up a close friendship when I realised how much it was affecting his new wife.

Yes I agree with replying something like, it would be great to meet her. Let's him know loud and clear of your intentions.

Thanks - I replied with will be lovely to finally meet your wife. He said she will say hi and leave us to it .

She may want to check you out but also I think it was only polite of him to let you know that she will be there, albeit only briefly. Same as if it had been his brother, dad or anyone else.

Hmm. I think he's probably interested in you. It's a strange way to word that message.

I think it's right that you meet his wife and that she doesn't trust him shopping - my guess is that she means the actual shopping as in buying the right groceries.

Well. I did meet them both. It was nice. No undercurrents. I didn't feel as if she was checking me out.
However. Weirdly I have heard from him every day since. (Including Christmas Day) They are actually in France on holiday at the moment. (Message from airport)This is over and above our normal contact. Lots of photos and comments about what he's doing.

It has sent my spider senses going. I have been on the end of stbexh messaging other women and have decided to back off. Now, I'm not saying he's after anything but it's emotionally a bit much - It just feels odd.

It feels odd because it is odd. It seems to me like he is romantically interested in you.

It's a good move on his part introducing his wife to you so she'll trust him more.

They might be Swingers...

Swingers 😁 thanks for the wise words. Shame to lose a friend but all very odd - he hasn't many friends so I guess I thought he texted more than usual because of that. We do have a mutual friend in common - she is looking after the house and she has received no texts from him.

Mmm