Hubby asked friend for a kiss.

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Just interested in views really.
Hubby went out last night got drunk, bumped into a friend of ours, whose child is at the same school as our children. Was very drunk and asked her for a kiss. She said no.
He has told me today as he feels bad and guilty and couldn’t remember exactly what was said but knew he crossed the line. Been together for 10 years married 7 and have 4 kids.
Have spoken to her and she just said she put it down to drink talk and said he was really drunk. But I do wonder if she is holding back on what was said so not to upset me and cause drama.

Not really sure what to do with all of this, especially two days before Xmas. He seems remorseful and understand he has broken trust and says he will make it up etc etc.
I just wonder if I’m over reacting when I feel like he has ruined everything? And to think that there are potentially bigger problems of he can do this?

And to hate him for doing this let alone on top of Xmas??

I think you are going through and will continue to go through a whole hodt of emotions plus being do close to Christmas adds to it all. You're shocked, upset, humilated, embarrassed, feel disrespected and hurt ...right???? Plus lots of questions are wondering around in yourhead. I would...
Speak to him tomorrow morning first thing, clear the air before Christmas. Tell him you feel all of the above and are very disappointed in his behaviour. Tell him if anything and you mean anything like this happens again you WILL get legal advice and ask him.to leave. Tell him straight and to the point.

Thank you. I think you’re right. A whole load of emotions running through my head at the moment flowerpot.
Thanks to everyone who has replied. Im glad there were responses for both sides means I’m not going as crazy as I feel!!
Hope you all have a lovely Christmas-I’m going for a long bath!!!!

Hi OP how are you feeling this morning,? Hope you have the talk to clear the air and you can enjoy Christmas

Actually asking a woman for a kiss. No, that’s not ok and alcohol isn’t an excuse. He only told you because he sobered up and panicked that she would tell you first.

We don’t know the ins and outs of your relationship, only you can decide whether you trust him.

But if it’s was me I would be worrying every time he went on a night out. How many women is he propositioning?

Doing shit like this will make you question everything.

Morning @Overseasmom100
Yes have had a talk and he is upset and disgusted with his behaviour and admitted if the boot was on the other foot I would have been out the house 🤔 but I just want to get through the next few days and ave a lovely Xmas for the kids. Then deal with us and whatever we have after. He said he is willing to do whatever it takes to make it right and win back my trust but let’s face it there isn’t much he can do is there? It’s going to be something that happens over time, if that’s even an option.
Have told him I can’t bear to look at him and if I’m honest i don’t even know if I want to work at it. I mean if he can do this after 10 years what’s to stop him doing it in another 10? He clearly has no respect for me or our marriage......and if he hasn’t after all this time then what’s the point? He was very ill two years ago and nearly died and as a result has been left partially sighted so I know that he has mental health problems- in terms of confidence anxiety and mood swings due to this. That’s something we have been working on together and with support. However it’s not an excuse as to why he has done what he has done. But I think it makes sense as to whom he approached- he felt “safer” as it was someone we knew. Either that or he fancies her! He says he doesn’t but who knows. Apparently the reason he did it was to play the big man infront of his friends. Well I hope he got a good laugh and a round of applause because he has flushed 10 years and four kids down the pan for a “laugh”.
Sorry I’m ranting now!! It’s diffic because I don’t want to admit to friends/ family what’s happened. It’s embarassing.
Anyway I’m just going to focus on having a lovely Xmas, it’s babies first one so i want to make it extra special.

WOW so he did it to show his friends how great he is? What friends are these that he tries to impress in this way? Such vile behaviour - and he thought this would show him as the 'big man'?

Personally I don't think this is the first time he's done this to you, in fact I wouldn't be surprised if every time he's gone out he has been badly behaved. The reason he has admitted it to you this time is because you would find out and he knows it. He has guilt written all over this and that's the only reason he has said. The worse thing is the double standard that he would kick you out if you did this to him.

Big hugs to you, he has ruined Christmas for you and that is so selfish of him. Personally as hard as it is to LTB over something that didn't actually go anywhere - it only didn't because this woman rejected his advances let's be fair. I just don't think I could let this slide. Just how far would it have gone if she had been game to his flirtations? I think I'd be questioning everything, any time he goes out with these 'friends' I just wouldn't trust him, and it will be so awkward knowing you will see this woman regularly. I'm just not sure I could get over this.

OP I would definitely put this out of your head and let this go. Don't waste your energy Christmas is hard enough. I've been really really drunk once and gone to kiss someone and the next day been completely perplexed thinking how out of character and completely ridiculous it was. I was sort of carried away with the Merry spirit. And felt mortified. Don't agonise over it. If your relationship is strong then just ignore it - but tell him you're choosing to ignore it you're not being blind. I think you would properly know in your heart and bones if it was indicative of something else. We usually "know" when it is.