19 weeks pregnant and husband has left me

[Newmummy2019]

I've never wrote anything like this but I will give it a go. Me and my husband have been together 4 years and married since March this year. When we found out we were having a baby he was so excited, putting it on Facebook and telling everybody. However two weeks ago we had a stupid argument about Christmas and basically he's gone to stay at his sister's house. He said he doesn't know what he feels for me anymore, doesn't know whether he loves me or not and says he has felt this way for about 2 months. Well 2 months ago he started a new job and had some nights out with his new work friends. He tells me there is no other woman, and I have to say I believe him. He says he is willing to try and see if he gets his feelings back and I am meeting him today for some food but I am so scared and anxious about it. All I have done is cry since he went and I know that I need to be strong for the baby but this isn't how I pictured our lives at all. I just need him to come home and look after me.

The nights out would ring a few bells, not that there's anything wrong with that but that it coincides with any changes you saw.

That's what happened when my ex partner cheated and left for a co worker.

Having a baby can be really tough whether in a relationship or single - is he going to run off every time you disagree on something, leaving you to do all the nightfeeds and general shitwork that come with having a baby? If so, you'll find yourself walking on eggshells and bending over backwards to please him so he'll stay.

Pull up your big girl pants, and tell him his behaviour is unacceptable. He does not get to run away after disagreements. He stays and you both sort it out and reach a compromise.

Nip this behaviour in the bud, OP. He is soon to be a parent, and cannot simply run off like a child.

As for the new job and his feelings 'changing' at the same time......maybe another woman (colleague) in the picture - maybe not. Keep an eye out.

It could be that he's suddenly got cold feet about the baby. Maybe his new colleagues are child free and living the high life, and have been putting him off the thought of parental responsibilities. It seems a very sudden overreaction out of the blue. You definitely need to talk to him and find out where all this has come from and get it resolved before the baby arrives.

There’s another woman. My ex changed tune a bit, although didn’t notice at the time, when a new woman moved into his mess at barracks. He left 6 months later. He also said there wasn’t anyone else.

Stay strong and don’t beg him to come back. Crack in with life and realise he’s done you a favour by getting out now.