Fallout from cheating

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I think I just need a hand hold.
Husband caught cheating. Relationship beset with uncertainty following an affair early days which I decided to forgive. Last week we had a row over him getting a credit card without discussion and he walked out. Got hospital accommodation Thursday, on badoo same day Friday spent the day and night with a woman. Came back Sunday with promises to work things through. Except he went on a swinging site, kept contact with her and lied the whole week. Now he knows that I know I'm the bad guy, it's all my fault and he's left for good. I know it's for the best, I know he's any number of low life things but right now I'm scared I'm lost I'm sick and I'm not ok. Tell me this passes please

What you don't know now, but will know eventually, is that this was not the worst outcome. You know he did it. Definitively. He can't deny it or make you feel like you can't trust your feelings. And you know it's for the best.

I'm so sorry about now, though. This feels horrible.

You aren’t the bad guy- he is. How cruel of him to try to turn this onto you!

It does pass, just allow yourself time. Thinking of you x

Thank you. I managed a bit more sleep. Im preparing for some difficult days

And to add insult to injury he just announced he was going to leave after Christmas but wanted me to have a nice one before he went. Oh how grateful I was. Good riddance! (May have moved from anxious to anger)

The quicker you find that anger the better off you'll be.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you.

Anger will give you the motivation to carry on through this. Develop your 'How- dare- he' muscles.