Long Distance Relationship - Am I Going Mad?

[chuppyson]

Hi All,

23 year old man here dating my current 23 year old girlfriend of 6 months. I live in England; she lives in Scotland. Met down here but she moved back home 2 months ago.

Naturally our relationship now consists of texting, calling and using Factime alongside occasional visits when we can.

I’m someone who craves physical intimacy and affection, she’s not so much. I get very hung up on whatsapping as this is the only real form of communication throughout the day. Recently her messages have been not as ‘nice’ as they sometimes are? Less words of affirmation, less flirty, less interested?🤷🏽‍♂️

I don’t know if it’s just me or I’m overthinking it? Simple things such as not calling me “babe” anymore, or “hun” as she would usually.. just seems off? Her reply time also seems to be increasing more also but this does seem to fall in line with when she is doing stuff and busy.. yet still just seems to be longer than it used to.

The conversations on WhatsApp have still been flowing I just have a weird sense? She told me a couple hours ago she was doing stuff around the house so naturally I was anticipating a reply to my response at some point but got nothing so presume she’s fallen to sleep but it just makes me feel rubbish she’s not thought to msg me before sleeping?

It’s hard enough in a distanced relationship but this is really stressing me out. She said she’s been feeling down lately she wouldn’t say why either. She’s far more closed off than I am.

Any thoughts are appreciated! Thank you

You keep asking the same type of question and people tell you the same thing. Just end it.

It's your fifth post in less than 5 months, in a 6 month relationship.

This relationship is not going to work for you!

I was in a LDR for several years and it can work find but you are clearly not secure enough in yourself and/or the relationship for this to work. Sorry.

Same thoughts as before. You are not cut out for a ldr.

You need affection and regular affirmation that everything's great (as long as that doesn't cross the line to insecure and needy it's ok), that's fine in a relationship IF both partners are the same. But she's not.

Throw in the long distance and texting instead of phonecalls or facetiming and you're second guessing messages and timings like they're a secret code that can be read by mumsnetters. We can't!!

Without great communication about issues that arise ldr don't work. And you are not willing to communicate with her as you are on mn AGAIN instead of speaking to her and say you feel she is pulling away and how can you both resolve your feelings and needs with hers.

Yes she may be realising a ldr relationship at a young age and so early in a relationship is not fulfilling her wants and needs. OR she may have different contact and reassurance wants and needs to you. But if you keep avoiding actual communicating with her about it you're going to tie yourself in knots and start being really needy and insecure. And that'll make her pull away more!