Purely sex situation - how to handle

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I've name changed for this but I'm a long time poster. I'm married and DH has essentially given me to go ahead to look elsewhere (v long story but long term issues in the bedroom) he doesn't want details and remains committed to our family as so I.

A situation has arisen when a work colleague where we have admitted a mutual attraction. There are enough opportunities in hotels etc every couple of months or so where we could indulge. There have been messages. Colleague is hot and single. How would this even work - I'd like the fun aspect but don't want to feel cheap/demeaned. I trust him and whilst we work together we don't see each other daily and I don't Work directly with him.

I guess what I'm asking is has anyone done this, is it madness? How do you agree on things like this? Would like to hear from anyone who has been in a similar position / good or bad

A free prostitute is when they message and expect you to meet them straightaway for sex, they just want to use you for sex without having to pay.

I don’t think it sounds as if you’re cut out for completely no strings sex. It will end in disaster

You are probably right kenny and to be honest I def don't have time to trawl hook up sites. This seemed an easy option and if I'm honest I am flattered. But I think it would have disaster written all over it.

Hi OP, I’m in the same situation. It’s very new to me and I’m not sure about the sites for hook ups so whilst trying to decide, I accepted every invitation that was offered to me over the party season and I have met two potential candidates. One is a friend of a friend and the other I met on a night out. The first I’m having another meet up with shortly to ascertain how this will play out and the second knows the score & I’m hoping will be in touch. I definitely recommend getting out as much as possible to meet men rather than shagging someone from work, just a little too close to home.

A free prostitute is when they message and expect you to meet them straightaway for sex, they just want to use you for sex without having to pay.

So, just to be clear... you think that women having (and hopefully enjoying) NSA fun are "free prostitutes"?

Be VERY careful. The fact you're on here asking the questions makes me think you're maybe not cut out for NSA. I came out of a very long relationship and launched into NSA with a gung-ho attitude. I ended up feeling hurt and humiliated and with no one to blame except myself. Casual fun can turn on a sixpence when you suddenly realise you want more but you haven't the strength to walk away. Be careful x

Erm no did I say that, not at all, but if a man, who is a complete stranger asks you to come and meet him straightaway, to him that is just the same as booking an escort only it's free?

stranger asks you to come and meet him straightaway, to him that is just the same as booking an escort only it's free

No, because you'd agree because you wanted sex with that person and not money... and he would also know that. Personally, that would make all the difference for me (not that I'm really that exciting). When it's NSA, it's because people want to have sex with each other. Nobody is there to make it a business (Well unless you're the owner of a swingers' club, I guess).

I was on fabswingers myself, I have had nsa sex and do not judge any women but am just saying about how a lot of the men on there see it.

A work colleague is a really bad idea.

You have no idea how you or your dh will react. You could end up with feelings. Your dh may hate it. Then you are stuck working with someone you have had sex with and pulled into this.

Don't do this drama at work.

If you want a fuck buddy. Go find one. Don't just fuck someone you know when this is the test phase.

Okay, so there's men who go on there with an expectation of instant sex, they will put up statuses saying so, message as many women as possible saying meet now etc, then get nasty when you say no, this is just my experience from being on there and how it makes you feel.

then get nasty when you say no, this is just my experience from being on there and how it makes you feel

I'm sorry you had that experience. An ex of mine ended up on there and I didn't feel like I'd keep my self respect having to deal with some of the people on there. I'm sure some are ok, but I'd imagine the single, desperate guys make it hard going.