separated from DH of nearly 10 years today- handhold please

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Things have not been right for a long time. Eg years. We barely communicate and have slept apart for several years. He has a drink problem, was sober for 4 months but recently started again. We haven't told the children yet. I'm taking them to stay with my family for Christmas. I know it's the right thing to do but I'm just so sad.

. And love and hugs. My marriage is over. We haven’t told the kids. It will be our last family Christmas. I’ve cried all afternoon. H has just come in and said ‘I just don’t understand why you are so devastated’ .

You will be okay. And stronger. Three months further on than you, first xmas, it's hard xx

Hugs to you both. I'm really lucky to be going away with my parents tomorrow for Christmas. He's not coming. Will say he is unwell to kids. Splitting up is the right thing to do but so hard. Need to stay strong for them.

How are you doing notsure ?