Exh has residence of youngest. She says her choice, but he put into her head she won't make friends in new area and frightened her into staying when I had to move for work last year.
Since he has had sole residence instead of me he has become very inflexible with contact to the point where I am struggling to see her more than three times per year. To give some context I was hospitalised with meningitis and was shortly after diagnosed with a chronic illness that I will have until I die. This illness can make me extremely tired, and therefore I am not able to drive a return journey to exh's on my own for safety (in case someone needs to take over).
All days/times have to be on his terms or they don't happen and all telephone calls have to be on speaker, or she is not allowed to talk to me. She has to watch what she says or she gets an almighty bollacking from him. If she tells me anything that happens at her home, including trivial matters like what xbox game daddy is playing, he goes nuts at her and tells her not to speak of what happens in his home.
I don't ask, I'm really not interested as long as she is happy and healthy.
I find it strange, is it, or am I too raw from his actions last year still?