I think I want to leave him

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My loving, happy, can't get enough of each other relationship has somehow turned into us basically just being housemates and I don't know how.

I'm pregnant (planned), and I knew things would change, but my DP has no interest in me since we got the positive result. Doesn't want to have sex, doesn't want to spend any time with me, gets really angry at me when I tell him that I'm upset with the way things have changed. And for a while I've just been plodding on and getting occasionally upset but the more time that passes, the less I want to even try. I'm struggling with the pregnancy in lots of ways (it's bloody hard work isn't it?! Women are great!) and feel like I've had zero support from him. And to be honest, I don't even want to spend time with the person he's become. I have booked us a surprise trip for after Christmas, which I hoped would bring us closer again, and now I'm lying in bed, alone with the flu whilst he sits downstairs drinking, alone, wondering if I should just get up and go tomorrow. I still love him but I don't think there's anything else I can try and I just don't see what I'd be missing.

I've spoken to him and he says things will be better when the baby comes, but I don't want to wait another 4 months to have my partner back.

Everyone has noticed he's completely different towards me too. His own family have asked why I've stuck around, and I'm running out of reasons now.

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@NotTheFordType I'm sorry?

Oh, that must be awful for you. I actually have a picture of you sat upstairs by yourself.
I’ve been there too, years ago with my ex dh. He ended up being a complete waste of my tears, my time and my goodness.

It is hard being pregnant. It is hard giving birth but it’s harder raising a baby. So if he’s a sulky child now, why will he suddenly sprout into action when the baby is here.

Is he worried about something, ie money, job, etc. If not then get your gorgeous bump, your lovely self and find somewhere happy. X

@Ozziewozzie I don't think so, when he first started to change I was always asking if he was ok, if he needed anything etc. I sort everything financially so he doesn't have any issues there. Tbh anything that goes slightly wrong in his life he comes to me and I fix it, and it ends up being my worry.

I can't help but feel a bit taken for granted tbh.

My brother turned in to a complete arse when my SIL was pregnant with their first and for the first few helpless baby weeks. Always had that tendency but it stayed hidden while he was getting all the attention. She almost left him. That was 40 years ago and they are still together and as happy as fruitbats. Two kids, three grandchildren. So hang on if you possibly can; the reality of your own child beaming up at you will make things right if they are capable of being put right. And if not at least you'll be sure of your decision.

You seem to be posting the same question in multiple threads

If his family are questioning you staying.... that would be an additional sign for me.

So before you got pregnant, you were basically his Mum and now you’re about to officially become a Mum, he’s going to wait it out until you can you can resume your total focus on him. If he’s like this now, he’s only going to get worse when your expectations of him increase and his dependency on you is challenged further.

If you want an equal partner you have to expect one and not accept less.

This dynamic didn’t occur overnight and it will take time to change but only if, you stop infantilising him and he wants to step up.