Help

[Brokenheels]

Hi everyone
I have been married for four years. We both have good jobs and a child that we love to pieces. My husband is kind and handsome, I am also good to him. We have a good marriage, had our ups and downs just like any other marriage. On the surface we have a good home and everyone comments on how happy we are.
However I am desperately unhappy. I cry sometimes when I'm coming home from work to see him. I do not know why I feel this way, I've tried everything that I can to cheer up but it's not working. I have no reason to feel this way. I am always smiling and chatting away because I'm trying to hide how I really feel and it leaves me so exhausted. A friend suggested an affair but I don't think that is the sort of relationship that I want in my life. I have sometimes wondered if I am going mad without realizing it. Please help, I need some advice so I do not ruin something good. Thanks.

Broken heels..You sound depressed. Maybe it seems you have everything to make your life happy on the surface but deep down this isn’t so. No ones life is perfect but maybe you have needs that aren’t being met that you’re suppressing. You need to get to the root of this maybe with councilling if you have no idea where these emotions are coming from.

Wecanbeheroes....thanks for your reply. I have been to counselling before but it didn't work

You don't love him.
You've 'settled'. Many women do. Either live with it and make the best of it or end the relationship.

@brokenheels, have you been to be the dr? You may need medication.

Is it definitely your marriage that's making you unhappy? If so, what in particular? I ask because you say you don't know why you feel like this... So perhaps you're suffering from depression? Or is it specific issues in the marriage?

Bless you, you are clearly depressed op. I was the same, in same situation, at one time. An affair will not help, it's just putting a plaster on.

Sometimes we just have to live through things. It will pass.

Is it definitely him that it causing the sad feelings? Is home life chaotic and full of child-based conflict?

When you think about coming home, is there something specific that you dread?

an affair is a shocking advice. you might have to try different therapists before you find one that you can be open with. Medication is very helpful too.

How old is your child? Were you happier before having your child? How was your mental health before you got married?