I'm writing this as I'm asking for women's opinions on my situation. 2nd marriage. Amazing first couple of years. Then wife hit menopause. I was very supportive to her symptoms such as hot flushes, brain fog, aching joints, loss of libido. She went for HRT and it made little or no difference. But our intimacy has completely diminished in the last 4 years. In that time I've had Sex just 10 times and in 2018 absolutely nothing. There are no kisses, cuddles or hugs and all we do is peck each other on the lips when we leave for work and when we go to bed. I've tried initiating spontaneous date nights but she's lost interest. She's subsequently put on weight (as I have) and I think that she is very conscious of her self image. I've complimented her over and over again but it's like she's given up. Added to this is that she had become a grandma this year and her focus is all about her grand daughter. I accept this, but feel not jealous but resentful that she can easily show love and affection for a baby and yet gives me zero attention in our relationship. I've talked to her about it and she knows I'm not happy but is burying her head in the sand. It's at the point now where I've closed off from her as she has to me and do we are ships drifting along. I don't want to go on holiday with her as the last two have been like going with a friend. She's waiting for me to press the nuclear button but I keep telling her I love her and want the marriage to work. I've suggested marriage guidance and she says yes but doesn't want to help me organise it. I'm not leading a horse to water if it doesn't want to drink!. I just feel that she's accepted that she's middle aged, a grandma and overweight and that's her lot. It's like she's lost herself as a woman. I'm desperately unhappy and find it tremendously disloyal to put a post on like this. But am I expecting too much?. Should I just leave and go our own way?. What do you think she's thinking?, does she want out or just doesn't know what to do? Help!