Feeling like people hate me after I leave

[awkspigeion]

Whenever I come back from an evening at work or when it is a Friday or just before a holiday I always worry work colleagues dislike me or I will get in trouble for something (no idea what!) or that everyone knows something I don’t.

It is at the point where I won’t actually be worrying of something specific but will have a general feeling of unease when I go to bed, as soon as I wake up and then in the day. I am fine when actually around these people, it is as soon as I am away from it all.

I have anxiety generally but if anyone has had anything similar it would be nice to hear from you.

It has to do with anxiety - it messes with your mind. I try to stop listening to theese thoughts, i try only to worry if i have proof. Doesnt often work, but it is "just" anxiety. And i refuse to be overwhelmed anymore.

That will be the alcohol!

I get this too. I think it is anxiety and a misplaced sense of shame instilled in me from childhood. Its always worse when i am tired.

Recognise it when it happens ride it out. It loses its power a bit if you acknowledge it for what it is. Dont use the feeling as a reason to over think what you have done or said! Just because you are feeling that way, doesnt mean you actually have reason to feel that way iyswim.

As a pp said, alcohol makes it worse.

Yeah alcohol and tiredness are not a good mix for anxiety! I think I just worry about anything and everything. Comment about misplaced shame being instilled from childhood is interesting. Nobody would think it from how I come across but I never think I am enough!

I honestly thin people are talking about me today and what I am like and then I worry they want to get me out of a job etc. All silly when I think rationally - we shared a taxi home and all chatted on the way back. I’m just a mess of a person I think.

social anxiety, there is cbt and medication which i recommend and i would stay away from alcohol completely. its the worst for anxiety and paranoia.

I am ok once I’m getting on with the day it’s that initial panic and analysis of everything. I wasn’t even drunk. Definitely not going to go large on the alcohol that’s for sure!!