Should I go?

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I recently discovered that my husband was having an emotional affair (plus v flirty messaging) with another woman. I confronted him, lots of tears, trauma etc, etc, but things have got back on an even keel and we're making a go of it. However, a friend of my husband's is getting married after Xmas and he (we) have been invited to the evening do, as has the other woman. I wasn't going to go, as I don't really know the couple (husband won't go if I ask him not to). But I now think, fuck it, I'll go too. Should I go, or would it be too excruciatingly awkward?

does she know you know about the messages?? either way i'd go and see what the score is and probably get drunk and call her a slag but don't do that 😂

Yes, she is aware that I found out.

Go

Go. Hold your head high. But have nothing to do with the snake. It even a polite smile as she passes. Do you have kids?

Pull out all the stops.
Hair
Nails
Fab outfit
Leave her in no doubt you are amazing!!

We have two teenagers (she has 3 children and is in the process of splitting from oh because he cheated, oh the irony). I'm leaning on the side of going and looking absolutely stunning, of course.

Oooh I'd definitely go! And I'd buy a killer outfit and eyeball the bitch all night. Would probably get too drunk and start saying immature things like "ah, there's the homewrecking cowbag who can't get a man of her own so tried to nick mine. Sad pathetic mare!" every time she came in close proximity.

Or both of you could just not go and get on with your lives (if you know he's genuinely sorry?)

I do believe he is genuinely sorry, and it would probably be healthier not to go and get on with our lives. But, what the hell, I'm in the mood for mischief.

Getting dressed up = Pick Me Dance. Just saying... but tbf I would too! I wouldn't drink though just in case you get loose lips! 😆

I'm trying to see all sides here as we don't know specifics of who instigated it, however, she was likely in a vulnerable state given her cheating husband and 3 kids to consider, so your DH was likely an ego boost. Just saying that she's already come off badly in life by the sounds of it and if she made a mistake while stressed, is it really necessary to kick her when she's down? Your DH was not undergoing a split from a cheating spouse, so he has far less excuse for it.
As you are only invited to the evening do, I'd guess you're DH is not very close to the groom and could easily just not go. Just give it a miss, you should not have to ask your DH, he should be happy tob avoid if he's serious about fixing things.