Falling apart

[Canthearthroughmyglasses]

I feel as though my whole life is falling apart. With no income and my relationship falling to peace’s it’s harder to hold it all together. I have had to tell my son there won’t be a present under the tree for him this year. He is old enough and works part time and said he would help with bills but I feel so guilty and useless. I started a new job at the very beginning of December but on the second day going to work on my bike I had a nasty fall on black ice and broke my hand resulting in me being signed off for at least four weeks. I am in bits. This is so not what we needed after everything we have gone through already. I feel my partner will walk out the door soon. How on earth do other people hold it together when there is one challenge after another, it’s been relentless.

I know my problems are not big but since May this year I have been working through agencies and office based doing various projects. However, it’s been sporadic and the income has been minimum. I am not making ends meet. However I got a permanent position now but scared I will be given the sack due to breaking my hand. I know everyone is so busy getting ready for Xmas but just need a friendly ear.

Your problems are big. Don't minimise them. I can feel your pain.

You say you think your partner will walk out but he hasn't yet. Does he not contribute to the household financially? It shouldn't all fall on you. Perhaps he can buy your son a present.

I'm so sorry you broke your hand, that was rotten luck when you were just starting a new job but you should get some sort of sickness benefit which is better than nothing.

Take a deep breath, be kind to yourself. All this will pass. I wish there was more I could do for you.

I'm so sorry to hear about what you're having to deal with. What an unlucky set of circumstances. I'd like to think your new employer will be understanding, accidents do happen afterall and it is the time of year when goodwill should be in abundance. Perhaps a quick conversation with your employer might ease your fears. I hope you heal quickly however.

As for your son, I know it must be awful not being able to get him a gift. But I am sure he will understand, especially with how tight things are. Perhaps you could do something else for him instead? Maybe bake a cake or make something. It's the thought itself that matters, not the intrinsic value.

I don't have enough information on your partner to comment. I would imagine if they love and care about you they wouldn't simply flounce off. And if they do leave, it's hardly a reflection on you. And perhaps gives you the opportunity to meet someone better suited.

By the by, if things are really tight, where you are struggling to even put food on the table, please do consider food banks. No one should go without this season.

Hope your life makes a turn for the better soon.