Don't know what to do

[Xxmaddiexx]

Hi everybody,

My boyfriend has seemed a bit off the last couple of weeks and took it upon myself to investigate to see if anything was going on.

I decided to have a nosey on his phone - not proud of it but did it nonetheless.
I found messages to another girl from March about 3 months after we got back together, that were explicit.

We've been on and off for a couple of years.
Obviously this has upset me but I'm angry with myself for looking in the first place.
Not sure what to do. Any advice would be much appreciated!

What to do? Seriously you need to ask what to do with a partner who has been unfaithful to you?

You leave the cheating bastard and find someone decent.

Not sure that he actually did anything with her but he was talking about going round and asking for sex for old times sake.

The fact that you're on and off coupled with him messaging another woman shows that this isn't really a relationship that's going anywhere and staying together is a waste of time and it's probably quite exhausting. I really would suggest breaking it off for good this time. I've been there in an on and off thing where there was very little trust and ending was such a good decision as I'm now with someone where there is just love and no mucking about.

On/off relationships are never healthy. Put that together with the fact that you felt suspicious enough to go through his phone and that he has cheated on you with this other girl (even if it was sexting only and it didn't get to the physical stage it's still cheating) you need to end things with this guy. You deserve better than someone who treats you as disposable (hence the on/off nature of the relationship) and has not respect for you (sexting other women).
Spend some time being single, having a healthy relationship with yourself, work on your self-esteem and where you set your boundaries (you've currently set the bar very low) and you'll find your future relationships are far better than this.

On/off relationships are never healthy.

^This with bells on. If it's been on and off for a few years take the bloody hint.

Not sure that he actually did anything with her but he was talking about going round and asking for sex for old times sake.

Set better standards for what you expect in a partner. The fact that it possibly didn't happen is immaterial. He wanted it to happen and he was trying to make it happen. That should be more than enough for you to kick his arse into touch and never look back.

What to do, eh bin him off, you don't really have a proper relationship anyway and he's clearly sniffing around for extras, find a real man I'd suggest.

I would leave him with no explanation. Even if there is nothing else to it (highly highly unlikely) he has massively disrespected you and you deserve better.