Brief history (prev thread) - I believe H has been mentally & emotionally abusing me for years. Finally confronted it although I called it outbursts & bullying (too scared to name it to him & doubting myself). He agreed to go to counselling which he refused to say anything about other than it’s made him see he’s not the monster I paint him to be & what he knows what he needs in a relationship! I brought up how things wouldn’t slip back to past behaviour if he couldn’t see what he was doing & he went mad. Said there’s no way forward if constantly bringing up the past & he wants to look forward. We’re trying to get through Xmas for DDs but he keeps saying I need to detail what exactly he’s done & when & what exactly I want from him. I’ve already given him a few examples but he keeps on & then says he struggles to see the person I describe. He is so cold & formal in all this btw. There’s little emotion. The weight is falling off me with stress & I can’t sleep. Is this s continuation of the abuse? My head is spinning. I feel strong some days & like I’m going to have a breakdown the next. Would really appreciate some opinions but pls be kind in your honesty. Pathetic I know.