Presently, in situation with family feuding on both sides of family having just learnt after 9 years no contact that my sister has been driving the dynamics in family, resulting in 2 family breakdowns. In the meantime, whilst trying to keep ourselves to ourselves, family are stirring up trouble in the background, whilst coercively involving our girls. Not sure what I can do, have been through so much toxicity, feel like collateral damage.. Boundaries placed but rarely respected.