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Unsupportive family

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Sadbuttrue0 · 19/12/2018 09:41

Hi.
I have 2 children, and they're not the easiest of kids ( DS possible ASD). As a family we have had a lot of struggles with DS, and we moved away as both my husband and I were made redundant and he found work here.
Obviously the distance means family can't help, but I often phone my mum with updates on children. Yes I have a moan about to finding it hard , but I also see the humour in it all. DS is a real character.
I recently got wind thst my mother had been critising my parenting to my brothers. Bit history, my mother was terrible growing up do no saint.
I'm hurt and angry, I have triedcovervthe years to mend our relationship from past hurts, but it seems like she just couldn't card less. I am not calling her anymore, and she never calls me so that's that then.
Bit dramatic, but there have been lots of things she has done like this over the years. I just don't know how to face up to it, that she obviously doesn't care or like me.

OP posts:
Sadbuttrue0 · 19/12/2018 09:41

Apologies for typos

OP posts:
AttilaTheMeerkat · 19/12/2018 10:05

Its not your fault she is like this, you did not make her that way. Ultimately you are going to have to grieve for the relationship you should have had rather than the one you actually got. You would not have tolerated this from a friend, your mother is no different.

Would concentrate your energies on your family unit going forward and live well. You may also want to look at and post on the "well we took you to Stately Homes" thread on these Relationships pages.

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