What is up with this married coworker?

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I'm a single woman and I work with this married man who is twenty years older than I am and has kids. During our meetings, I've noticed that he never fails to sit next to me. I would sometimes try to find a different spot to sit at, but he continues to sit next to me anyways. If he isn't able to sit next to me at all, he stares at me when I'm not even speaking or doing anything. He has also said to me once at the end of one of our meetings, "I hope you enjoy the warm weather, such as yourself." But then he quickly changed the ending of it by saying, "such as today." He also mirrors my actions and words a lot and doesn't do it with others in the group. Why does he keep doing this?

Sounds too me as if he thinks something is going to go down between you ... BOKE.. Give him the dry treatment without being too rude, if that doesn't work tell him to back the F*CK off 😂🙌.

Is he reserved/quiet? Sometimes people gravitate towards others who seem sweet, drama free, friendly, more their personality type.

Don't give him any eye contact. Steer clear. Don't speak to him. Keep notes about what he is doing.

Who cares why he's doing this?? Ignore him.

Why he is doing it doesn't matter.

If he is making you uncomfortable, speak to your manager.

Tell him to piss off. Be clear. If you don't he'll just carry on and it'll end with you in a massively shitter place than yo are now.
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Ugh, he sounds like a creep! If he is making you feel that uncomfortable, I'd complain.

He is a creep who has watched too many Sid James films.

Yuck! Just ignore him

I don't get the mis-wording if the sentence thing but the rest of it I'd probably deal with by being super frosty. Polite, professional but frosty.
Get to meetings as late as possible to pick a seat, if there's staring, ask if you've got something on your face. Start to call it out.

No offence but are you really asking why or are you looking for validation of why you think he's doing this (presumably that he's coming into you)?

Yeah he's probably coming into you. Unless you fancy a fling with a married man with kids, be cold/neutral or if it's bothering you, report it.

Do you really need us to tell you what he's doing? Really? Honestly? You don't know?

The obvious answer would be he fancies you.

I suspect this is the poster who post and posts about a bloke at work who she fancies and has told him so. He turned her down as he is married but still (she believes) fancies her.

She wants validation from people to carry on the fantasy.

Warm weather, such as yourself

Eh?

I agree, not a clue. It’s the work crush troll

I agree, not a clue. It’s the work crush troll

Oh, gosh, you're right. It's the poster who believes that all the meaningful glances and 'mirroring' words and gestures (like some weird collegial version of 'Simon Says'?) indicates that he is really, truly in love with her, but is too noble to do anything about it, though he really, really wants to.

If someone ended a meeting by saying "I hope you enjoy the warm weather, such as yourself", I would wonder whether they had just had a stroke or something, rather than construing it as a deep compliment to my sunniness and warmth.

Hello again OP. Leave the man alone.