Dating again when raising kids

[Thenappyassistant]

Hi all,

So to cut a long story short I have a 3 year old and a 1 year old. Their father emotionally abused me for 3 years until I literally couldn’t take it any longer. We now have separated and I feel like I’ve got my old self back.

Prior to this 5 year relationship, I was in a 9 year relationship, my first love.... he cheated on me with his sisters friend.

So yeah anyway after these experiences I just wonder how I will ever trust any many ever again. Don’t get me wrong I’m not in a rush to meet anyone I want to focus on my babies and making the transition as smooth as possible for them but I’m only 32 and just find it hard to imagine how with 2 young children and such little time I will find it within myself to let anyone else in. I feel like emotionally I’m very damaged...

Would be nice to hear some stories of how people have coped as newly single mums and how they found the time to date again and how maybe they even found love again? I don’t want to just go it alone forever but don’t know that I will ever feel ready to date .

Thanks you xxxx

I'm newly single after leaving an abusive (physical and emotional relationship). Two young kids also.

Not really looking to date anyone at the mo as I'm still adjusting and need to work through my issues.

My only advice is don't worry about dating. Lots of people on here have kids and separate with their partners only to find love again somewhere down the line, I've read lots of threads on it. Others remain happy being single and independent.

If you are fresh out of a relationship, just take each day as it comes.