He just that isn't in to me is he :(

[tardiz]

Bit of a back story.

Met a man in April 2017 from a hook up site. Got on really well and started a fwb set up. Both seeing others .

Come October 2017 he said he only wanted to see me and I said I was happy just seeing him too.

August 2018 We spoke and decided to try a proper relationship. Now due to family commitments on my end and a busy life his end we only see eachother 2-3 times a month for weekends(1 or 2 nights) but this seems to be working well.

I was away last weekend and he is going on holiday over Christmas starting from next weekend it will have been just over 3 weeks until we see eachother for new years. I thought we would see eachother the full weekend before too but he messaged me today saying he was going to power through his new spiderman download on that weekend and he was planning on picking me up on the way on Nye. So I would just see him for that one day/ night after 3 weeks.

Usually i would just say oh just talk to him etc but im a bit fed up of me asking to see him extra. And as pathetic as it sounds I want him to want to spend time with me :(

Hi op, don't know If I am the best to give advice as I would be the type that fell in love quite easily and would be like you wanting to spend time with someone I fancy, but 3 weeks is a while and you would be hoping he would be looking forward to spending time with you over watching spiderman?? Are you really into him? If so maybe speak to him and see where he is at, if your not, I'd pull away from him, its going on awhile now and if you want more you might be wasting your time xx

Sorry to read this. Quite correct, not that into you. Good news is you sound sensible and brave enough to be clear sighted on this. No excuses for him. Make space for better or you might get stuck with this one. Sorry about that.

No, I'm afraid he's not that into you.
Do you want more than a FWB?
Do you want a proper relationship where you would see each other more?
Offer each other more?
Have some love and affection.
Someone to be there when you need them?
If so, then please ditch this one and find yourself someone better and more suited to what you want.

I actually don't think there's anything g for you to worry about other than different expectations. Sounds like he is happy you have progressed to relationship but also happy with timings, a couple of times a month seems like your norm and he is adhering to that and with the spider man comments, I've known grown men that are into super hero's and the common vibe I get from them is they like a lot of their own time for that shit 😂 so I think he's just blissfully carrying on as normal but you now want to see him more and because he is not matching your want for more (he can't read your mind) you're feeling that he's just not into you. Best thing to do is just be blunt "can we see a bit more of each other since it's Xmas?"

We have been in a proper relationship since beginning of August. I have a lot of free time as i have shared custody with my kids father.

He is one to like his own space too which I am as well so I do understand but he comes back from holiday with his sister the 28th so in my mind there is no reason we can't spend the weekend together too.

Usually i would ask him. I'm jusy getting a bit fed up. I think he should want to see me after 3 weeks to be honest xx

Or just ditch him for a man that's not into super hero's, easier said than done, still trying myself 😳

Isitme

You have pretty much managed to sum him up! 😆

This time after not seeing eachother for 3 weeks id like to spend a bit longer than a passing visit. I will try being blunt but it feels a bit like I would be forcing him if that makes sense x

He chose Spiderman over you. LTB.

I'm honestly a big fan of my own company, but if I really like a person, I do not prioritise fictional characters over them, and certainly not at Christmas/New Year after not seeing them for three weeks.

Let this one go.

Choosing Spiderman over a shag is where I'd draw the line.

Have you exchanged Christmas presents already then? You've been seeing him for quite a while now, I would expect a bit more than you're getting TBH. Is he young?

No we haven't exchanged presents etc yet. He is 41 and I'm 33 x

41? Yeah. He's not changing.

Get a refund on his gift and treat yourself to some lovely things.

He doesn't sound like he's worth all the trouble. I would ditch him fast

I think you've assessed his feelings accurately. It just sounds as though you want different things from the relationship, so it's probably not going to work out long term for you.

Nah, sorry not sure I believe he's spending the weekend with his spider man box set, and even if he is, could he be any more insulting; get yourself out there meeting a grown man that actually wants to spend this special time of year with you.

I'm starting to see why his longest relationship has only been 18 months 😆

Spiderman, Spiderman, bin him off and find a better man

:)

Spiderman? Is he 13?

LTB

Have you been on holiday with him?

I had a bf like this when I was about 18. He wasn't into me either. (Preferred his comics.)

My 15 year old loves his PlayStation and marvel films but even he prioritised being with his girlfriend over that!