Sleeping with men feels wrong ..

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For the last two years I've never fancied a man.
I've dated men but I didn't find any attractive.
I knew something was wrong with me and I kept trying and trying to feel something.
I slept with them and got upset after.
Felt dirty after.
I hated kissing them.
I met this woman who I started to really like and I feel so comfortable with her.
Do you think I've always been bisexual and didn't know?

I suspect you already know the answer to your question.

Perhaps you are gay and always have been.

There has been men I have fancied but the last two years I've just felt nothing.
I've pushed myself and tried to fake it but I just can't.

I knew something was wrong with me

There is nothing wrong with you. Nothing. Don't think that way about yourself :)

For some people sexuality isn't as simple as straight or gay. Maybe you're physically attracted to both sexes but prefer women. You like who you like.

There's nothing wrong with you. It just sounds like you prefer women to men. Perhaps you're gay, perhaps you're bi. Either way, no need to panic.

I'm bi and probably prefer women.......because women are awesome

Man or woman, you like this new person. So spend time with them.

Absolutely nothing wrong with you. You are simply You.

You might be gay or bisexual, or you might just not have met a man, or woman, who you feel really secure with.

Spend time with the woman you have mentioned here and see if it goes anywhere.

Thanks everyone.
It's still difficult for me to process that I actually like women in that way.

It took me until the age of 33 to realise that I'm actually bisexual. There's nothing wrong with you at all

@DragonSnaps I'm 32

I know people who realised their sexuality even later in life. If you like this woman, then I wish you all the best. You do what feels right for you, not what you think you should do because of what's expected by others.

Please don't feel there is anything wrong with you. My eldest DD is in her first ever relationship and it just so happens that she fell in love with a woman. She says she is bisexual but it's just a label. They are so happy and good together.

If it feels right with a lady for you and uncomfortable with men then do what makes you feel right or you will never be happy

Satisfy your curiosity or it will eat away at you for the rest of your life

Good luck

It's crazy because I didn't even know I was starting to like her till I did.
Telling people is the next big hurdle for me.

I don't think you need to agonise about whether you've "always" been gay or bi and feel like you "ought to have realised" or feel silly for being in your thirties and that people will think you've been lying to them/yourself about your orientation.

Sometimes people's sexuality changes throughout their lives. Some people are fixed in their orientation and that never changes, but for other people they can be straight, gay or bi at different points.

I’m bisexual, 100%.
I have never slept with a woman but that is purely because I married my first ever boyfriend.

Now, 20 years later, I am seriously considering divorcing him. One of the many, many reasons is that I want to experiment with other people and don’t want him involved. There’s absolutely no reason why my next sexual partner wouldn’t be a woman if I found her attractive enough.

But I am turned on by both straight and lesbian porn, I work with a gay woman whose wife I have a massive crush on ( but would never act on) and I sometimes fantasise about sex with women, either when I am having sex with my husband or when I am masturbating. Other times I am in the moment and only a man will do.

I told a gay friend of mine that in my opinion, some people only like the opposite sex, others only like their own, but there’s a whole bunch of people like me who are attracted to people for who they are, not what gender they are. He agreed and said he’d never heard it put like that.

If/when I get divorced, I will definitely use the opportunity to find out for sure if I actually like women, or just the idea of being with them.