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Have I done the wrong thing

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Josie225 · 17/12/2018 12:33

Need some advice please. I was out at the weekend and have seen my husbands friend all over a girl and they kissed.
I know this friends partner really well and was annoyed that he was behaving in this way.
I confronted them and basically I have told his girlfriend what I have seen. I debated not saying anything but felt that if it was me I would want to know. She has thrown him out and I'm unsure if they will get back together. Was I wrong to say something?

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whynot93 · 17/12/2018 12:36

I'd want to know, imagine she found out from another person and then knew you were there .. nope I'd have done the same.

EllenRipley · 17/12/2018 12:40

You did the right thing

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Josie225 · 17/12/2018 12:45

Thanks for the feedback, husbands friends who were there have all closed ranks and said they didn't see him kiss her, , but they were all over each other. I know what I saw and I have no reason to lie, it's made me doubt my actions as I'm now being seen as a stirrer.

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VietnameseCrispyFish · 17/12/2018 12:47

You did the absolute right thing.

Amberheartkitty · 17/12/2018 12:51

Well done you. It’s so annoying that no one ever says anything. In previous relationships when we broke up everyone started telling me stuff. 🙄 not much good now is it? I could have finished him months ago and saved myself some hassle.
Even my ex’s friends sheepishly told me he had cheated and they hadn’t wanted to break us up at the time. Great thanks for that.

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Josie225 · 17/12/2018 12:55

I have spoken to the girlfriend and explained the situation she said she was pleased I had told her as she didn't want people talking behind her back. I suppose but because she isn't a really close friend I wondered if it had been my place. My husband has said well if they get back together doubt you will be invited to anything anymore!

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VixenSixen · 17/12/2018 13:02

Well sometimes it's better to do what is right than stand by and watch something happening right in front of your eyes and do nothing.

If it was my partner I would want to know..... You definitely did the right thing.

She is well shot of him!

sirmione16 · 17/12/2018 14:58

If it were me, I'd be thanking you. You did the right thing - especially confronting them there and then and following through. Show of a loyal friend IMO.

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Josie225 · 17/12/2018 15:44

Thanks sirmione like I say I'm not good friends with her but we are friendly she's a nice girl. Have a feeling they will get back together though so It may make things awkward

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Josie225 · 17/12/2018 15:45

Thanks sirmione like I say I'm not good friends with her but we are friendly she's a nice girl. Have a feeling they will get back together though so It may make things awkward

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Josie225 · 17/12/2018 15:45

Thanks sirmione like I say I'm not good friends with her but we are friendly she's a nice girl. Have a feeling they will get back together though so It may make things awkward

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