Hi.
My boyfriend of six months, who since day one has always been completely committed on about every level has recently told me he's a commitment-phobe and doesn't know if he will ever be the type of person to want a lifelong commitment. I had to drag this statement out of him because it definitely wasn't the impression he gave with his actions towards me which have shown a very different picture.
Yes, he has some baggage which makes the timing we met a bit unfortunate to say the least, and yes, he's only had bad experiences of LTRs in the past so I am empathetic to how he feels (although less empathetic to him not being upfront) and ideally he would have had a year of being single before we met. It didn't happen that way though and from our first date we were peas in a pod.
After he came out with this revelation, I was shocked, hurt and angry and I broke up with him saying I wanted love in my life and a possibility of permanence with the person I was with and if he'd already decided he might never want that and didn't even want to want it, then I couldn't invest in him anymore.
He's obviously upset we split up and I can see he misses me a lot. It was obvious throughout our relationship that he really doted on me and I think we're in love with each other so all this feels sad for both of us.
I just wanted some "no nonsense" opinions on this if someone has the time for some input. know all this is a grey area answer for most people because no one knows what the future holds but I am just banging my head against the wall in hurt and frustration that I looked for years for a relationship that was this right, finally found it and feel like the rug has been pulled out from under me.
He wants to see me (I think though to say goodbye rather than put up a fight).