My husband became emotionally and psychologically abusive a few months ago. We've been together for years and have 2 children. This was totally oit of character for him. He was displaying typical guilty behaviour and going out a lot. I suspected an affair and confronted him often, but he totally gaslighted me and made me feel like I was going mad.
A couple of weeks ago he admitted it. I asked him to leave. He refused and begged forgiveness. I said I could never forgive him. He carried on in denial for a week or so then my brother talked to him and he agreed to leave. I felt much calmer knowing he was going. The day after we told the children he completely turned around and said he's not going again. He is messing with the kids minds, crying on their shoulders and telling them he doesn't want to go. Making me look like the bad guy because we haven't told them what he's done.
I have told him repeatedly it's over and I want him to leave but he is just ignoring me . Saying he won't go and he will show me he's the same man I married?
What can I do? I don't want to leave because I don't want to uproot the children on top of everything else and it's my bloody home and I'm not the one who fucked someone else