Husband not home

[solonelyhere]

So, not sure if I am over reacting or not. Husband went out tonight, happy for him to do so and he said he wouldn't be out late as our children are not well,I expected maybe 11 at the latest, now after 2 am. Just after he went out I got a message from his friend saying he had left his phone at home and definitely wouldn't be out late.

Still not home, no way of contacting him as I don't know who he is out with or where.

Not to drip feed, things haven't been great recently as he hasn't been helping me at home and spending most of his weekend in bed and getting up at lunchtime.

I love him very much but just feels like tonight is pushing me over the edge. I know if I say something to him he will get defensive and then apologise and say he'll change but he won't.

I'm also really worried that he isn't home and don't know what to do

Sit tight

Can you ring the friend who messaged?

Is there a reason he needs to be home right now? Just go to bed I say, wake him up in the morning at a normal time. Don't let him sleep in. But besides that I don't see what the big deal is.

He's just having a good time. Don't worry.

I wouldn't worry... I know easier said than done. If my DH is out with the boys he can roll in at stupid o clock (think 6 / 7 am)

Just make sure you have plans to do the hoovering in the hall, outside your bedroom at least 4 times tomorrow.

If my partner goes out with the lads it's usually around 4-6am he's home, he only goes out about 3/4 times a year & he likes to make the most of it :) I wouldn't worry!

Really surprised at these posts.

With no other info then yes, nothing wrong with either of you being out late seeing friends.

But you did give us more info, your DC are sick and sounds like he's been taking you for granted as the default parent while he spends his weekend in bed.

Have you spoken to him about him taking you for granted like this? How does the conversation go?

So is his phone at home? Who goes out without their phone?

I’d check his phone - see if there’s any indication on there where they were going or if you can see from his messages what’s going through his head at the moment. It’s not very fair what he’s doing to you.

What time did he roll in OP?

Hope you got some sleep

I left my phone by mistake last weekend so it can happen.
I also plan to be home early and stay out and DH has done it too.

Did he get home ok?

How are you today?

Did you chat?

Op I hope you are ok?

What time did he get home op