Long story, but I no longer have good relations with my mum. I do speak to her on the phone and have kept things civil at my end, but she insists on telling everyone that I am abusive and she is scared of phoning me.
Anyway, my youngest brother lives at home with her. He has severe learning difficulties. Me and him have always been very close and when I lived on my own I would care for him for long weekends and take him out etc, he really enjoyed it. But when I started dating dh mum put a stop to it by complaining that I didn't care for him well enough, I got him drunk (no I didn't) and that my brother didn't like dh.
Anyway, now that relations are tense it is even more difficult to see him. I have tried a couple of times but she's cancelled saying he was unwell or whatever.
Just got an email from my eldest brother accusing me of not caring for him and saying that I should make amends with my mum, life is too short etc. He blames me for everything because of course, he listens to the poison she spouts about me.
Now I'm trying to call her to try and arrange to have my bro over this coming weekend. I'm ready for more excuses but I'm also fed up and angry of being painted in this bad light. However if I say anything to her I know from past experience that it will only make things very very bad for me and I risk not being able to see my bro.
So help me keep my cool!