abusive relationship?

[JessicaMariePineda]

Today I was arguing with my boyfriend of two years and he was getting really aggressive with me. I asked him to lower his voice and he just yelled at me to shut the fuck up. I feel that this relationship has messed up my morals, I don't know whats right or whats wrong anymore and I want help. I am almost positive that it's not normal to speak to your partner like this. He has told me this numerous times. Now what confuses me is that he will apologize and really seem sincere. But it's not long before he disrespects me again. I don't know what to do because I really love him and I don't want to break up. Someone just tell me the god honest truth. I need it..

Yep, not right.

In my experience telling somebody who is pissd off to quiet down has never had the desired effect. It's like putting a match to a stick of dynamite and just makes them louder.

My husband and I have been together for ages and ages, and not once has he ever yelled at me or used profanity towards me. You need to raise the bar and get help for your low self-esteem. Your relationship with this man is NOT what love is.

Yes my husband has never told me to fuck off or shut the fuck up either. Of course we've had arguments but if he swore at me like that I'd be incredibly pissed off.

I'm assuming he shouted angrily it like 'Don't tell me to lower my tone' rather than a disbelieving 'What are you on about?'
If that makes sense?

As the FB saying goes, telling a woman to calm down has the same effect as baptising a cat.

How old are you both ?

By aggressive what do you mean? Did he become physical?