Is your husband head butts the door

[hellonearthlands]

Twice, what do you do? He's left a hole in the door. He head butted it twice really full force when we were having a heated discussion. I've come to bed

It's a pre cursor to physical violence towards you.

You leave is what you do.

unless he is very ill and requires mental health support you would see that as a huge warning sign to leave.

You know yourself what you've to do, that's why you've posted.

Take care x

Tbh I wouldn't want to live with a man like that. However, in the absence of a back story, I would be concerned about why he had side turned into that type of person.

Get the fuck out or get HIM out immediately. He will soon turn this violence unto you. This is not normal and it is not acceptable.

That would be more than enough to make me leave the relationship. Violence in any form would be a deal breaker for me.

I'd expect DH to go to anger management classes if he headbutted things and damaged our property due to us having an argument.
Not normal or acceptable.
If he ever did it again I'd leave him.

What you do is, you get your pretty little ass out of there.

I know you won't leave though will you? That's why you're posting on here.

What should you do and what do women actually do have two very different answers.
Don't be in the latter group.
You know what has to happen.
Believe me, it WILL be you next.

Trust me it will be you next..get out now , hope you have no children there be safe

Stabulous is right.
My ex was the same.
It’s horrible to watch...he put his fist through it.

He leaves or you do.

There is no other "action" you could take. What did you want people to say to you ?

www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/maybe-he-doesnt-hit-you-but-abuse-is-abuse_us_5739f723e4b08f96c183ada1

Its a display of his dominance. Think of a silver back gorilla beating his chest...

Yep, you should get him to leave. Easier said than done but that's the only sane course of action.

Pathetic little drama queen tried to show you he was a big man. Put him in his place and get far away

Definitely what all the others have said.

You leave, just as the other 16 people on this thread have said. Next time, you will be the door.

I would ask him to leave for a short period and to suggest getting some anger management. It depends really as you know him better then we do. Is he normally like this? Or was it a matter of a moments madness x

woo that's not normal behaviour at all

AM courses are no answer to the problems of domestic violence which this is an example of. He has a problem with anger, her anger, when she calls him out on such behaviours. He can likely control himself around other people and work colleagues so in all likelihood he does not have an anger management problem.

And OP you should make plans to leave this man, the next time this happens (and it will happen again) it could well be you rather than the door being head butted.

Very true @AttilaTheMeerkat

Echoing everyone else.

I've been through similar, although it was a wall instead of a door.

Surprise surprise... few months later it was me that bore the brunt of his anger.

Seriously... you need to leave.

You've been warned by him now. Shut the fuck up and do as you are told or your head will be the shape of that door. You OK with that?

Get out. No good will come of this behaviour and realistically wether it takes days or years, he will end up harming you.

My ex was like that, holes through doors, knife into side of toaster, heavy metal car transporter toy thrown across the room and taking a chunk out of the wall, narrowly missing our child, Eventually he started on the children, smacking them round the head for minor misdemeaners and shoving me about in public, I made him leave and made sure he didn’t come back.

As someone else said upthread, if he can control his behaviour around friends and at work, it’s not an anger management problem, it’s a him problem.

That's not right or normal. Your partner shouldn't be so aggressive that they behave like that. I'd be leaving.