Aibu - husband ?

[thehamsters]

We’re skint.
Husband doesn’t have any additional skills to make more money or much opportunity for promotion in short term. I can do occasional additional work in evenings and weekends.
I book in to work all Saturday afternoon - and then associated paperwork I’ll have to do in evenings after normal job, for a week or so. I hate it but we need the money.
Husband was annoyed at me that I booked to work Saturday pm, when he wanted to play football. And could I have done it at a different time.
I have a go at him for a) being unreasonable and b) not being part of the team/ working together to sort this.

He thinks I’m unreasonable for being upset about his comment. He is angry with me for saying he’s not working as part of this team / marriage etc...
Have two kids, both work and have huge mortgage.

AIBU?

As he doesn’t have the capacity to earn more he needs to support you when you can pick up extra cash as you’re skint!

His hobby needs to take a back seat to earning.

Absolutely not. Him playing football doesn’t put food on the table, whereas your work does. He’s the one being unreasonable. You could have spent your Saturday doing something you enjoyed but you chose to provide for your family. He really has no argument here.

Thanks
I think we have these same arguments over and over I start to think that it's me and not him.. it's def him isn't it!?

It's definitely him OP. I'd consider carefully what this relationship actually brings to the table.
He's not much of a catch is he?
Think you can do better for yourself.

agree with pallasathena. You can do this on your own. Sell your house, downsize, smaller mortgage that you can cover yourself, lose the excess baggage ( DH), Live your life with your DC's and find someone who appreciates you and adds to your life.

He’s being a dick - he should be grateful and supportive (e.g. taking over household jobs and bringing you cups of tea while you do this arduous extra work), not criticising you.

Let's not catastrophise this. It's one comment about football and people have you selling your house and binning him off!
I agree with PP that your work of course takes precedence.
TBH money worries are so corrosive. Your OP reads like the sort of 'no, I am more tired' arguments DH & I had when our DC were babies.
Hopefully you can find some middle ground again. 💐

Did you discuss first or just tell him you'd be working?

Snog, it was in the diary for a month or so and he would have been aware of it before any football dates came out.
It was discussed beforehand as we both know we need some money to get out of the debt. He is definitely less bothered about being in debt than I am.