Aibu - husband !?

[iambreezy]

We’re skint.
Husband doesn’t have any additional skills to make more money or much opportunity for promotion in short term. I can do occasional additional work in evenings and weekends.
I book in to work all Saturday afternoon - and then associated paperwork I’ll have to do in evenings after normal job, for a week or so. I hate it but we need the money.
Husband was annoyed at me that I booked to work Saturday pm, when he wanted to play football. And could I have done it at a different time.
I have a go at him for a) being unreasonable and b) not being part of the team/ working together to sort this.

He thinks I’m unreasonable for being upset about his comment. He is angry with me for saying he’s not working as part of this team / marriage etc...
Have two kids, both work and have huge mortgage.

AIBU?

I think YABU. Of course he should be able to play football. You also seem to have low opinion of him.

If you need the money to pay the bills then that’s more important than him playing football.

How many afternoons a month do you get to go off without the kids and do something you like, play sport etc ?

You’re clearly under a lot of financial pressure here but working is more inportant than playing football at the end of the day and i suspect you dont plan an afternoon off to do something you like! Can you have a serious talk about money and find a way of working it so you both have opportunity for a bit of time out?

Priorities. Earning money over-rides football. Can he really not understand that?

No you aren’t unreasonable.

He’s an idiot for not recognising that work has priority over bloody football. (Unless he’s a professional footballer of course).