Is he serious this time?

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Have been seeing a guy on and off for around 7 months...around four weeks ago I had enough called it off. He was on dating sites and so was I but he was the one that refused to come off it.

Two days after I called it off he arrived to my house told me he loved me wanted us to be together deleted his dating accounts infront of me and a week layer on a lovely date asked me to officially be his girlfriend.

We both have two daughters and met them this week I am meeting his parents this weekend.

It’s going so well and I do feel like he loves me he makes time for me and my daughter and always asks about her etc. However after my marriage ended I don’t fully trust my jusdgement on things. Does it seem like he is being serious this time? What other things should I look out for ?

Why was it on and off? Also I would personally want to be off the dating sites after a few dates.

It sounds like you're both rushing into meeting the children and parents, if I'm honest - given the background to this 'relationship'.

I think he offered his children as a means of winning you over and I think you offered your children as a way of validating the relationship.

He was on dating sites for the whole of the on/off 7 months you were seeing him... I'd want him to prove that they was seriously interested and be viewing it all with a cynical eye.

I wouldn't be involving the children or parents at this stage.

In fact, I would have walked away from the whole thing. Life is too short to be second guessing someone else's intentions.

*he was not they was!

I’d still be a bit wary, OP.
It’s possible that he is genuine- after all, he has baggage and a previous relationship, and may have simply been hesitant about committing to you, but realised what he was losing when you ended it.
But it’s also possible that you’re a convenience, and he’s love bombing to get you back on his hook, after which he’ll revert to dating sites and cheating on the sly.
I would consider him “on probation” for another six months or so, while you assess his day to day behaviour toward you. If he’s faking, the mask will slip eventually- it’s hard work to keep up a pretence if devotion. If he genuinely loves you, that will gradually be confirmed by his care and consideration to you and your DC over time. Reserve judgment, but give him the benefit of the doubt until proved otherwise!

It was on and off because of him tbh he was unsure what he wanted...which he has now told me he didn’t want to get hurt again (his last relationship ended badly) my marriage just ended last Christmas.

But when we would call things off we would always end up back together within a few weeks

Do what suits and works for you and your kids. It all seems rather 0-100mph right now. You don't have to introduce him to your family just yet if you don't want.

BTW there was no cheating we weren’t ‘together together’ And I dated other people too when we would of been ‘off’

So why the rush to get the children involved?

I think I'd be warier than usual given the on/off nature. You've got to see this as a new relationship - not a continuation of the previous one.

I think you both were taking it very casually. If he loved you he would not have been on dating sites for the whole seven months. It definitely does not feel like a relationship that is anywhere near the stage of involving parents and children.

It sounds like he has decided that he'd rather be with you than without you and that's as good a basis for a relationship as any! If he messes you about again then I'd be wary, but as its reasonably early days, slow it down a bit with the kids/parents and just enjoy each others' company.

Where's the rush? Just go back to how things were and do the whole kids meeting thing further down the line.

Yes. Too fast.