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Taken advantage of????

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Adorable2018 · 15/12/2018 00:54

I am in a relationship with a widowed father of two , three years together living together 1 year and feel like i spend a lot of weekend nights babysitting his kids. Kids are no bother at all not an issue . One night every weekend night for last 5/6 weeks.last weekend he was out till 4. I love my nights out too but friends dont go out as much etc He is still out now, out since 3.00pm. Its coming up to Christmas so a lot more meet ups etc on.... but .... am i a mug? Maybe i am just jealous he has more people to go out with? Grin or last weekend he was like i was talking to two girls etc ... I dont believe he would do anything bit feel like a dope sitting in while he is out having banter while I am in ? Thoughts ladies ?

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Yutes · 15/12/2018 00:55

Oooh free in house babysitter

ScreamingValenta · 15/12/2018 00:57

It sounds as though he is taking advantage of you, yes. What does he do for you in return for all your babysitting?

C0untDucku1a · 15/12/2018 00:58

Does he even ask? Thats a long time to be out.

Thespace · 15/12/2018 00:59

Very convenient for him. If you are feeling taken advantage of then that is probably the case.

flyingdragonzog · 15/12/2018 01:00

Sorry he's out chatting to two women, telling you about this and not paying you for childcare??

Yes. He's taking advantage

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Adorable2018 · 15/12/2018 01:00

He is a good guy, good father etc . I mean that and I was a single parent myself. I know its good to get out and have a good night. We all need it. But something feels niggly???

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Adorable2018 · 15/12/2018 01:01

There was a babysitter but i got back early from work but wonder if he didnt know i was here would he have come back earlier?

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Adorable2018 · 15/12/2018 01:02

Think he was chatting to womem not chattimg them upGrin

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Yutes · 15/12/2018 01:02

Is he assuming you will watch his children?
Does he do anything nice for you as thanks? Do you two manage to spend time/nights together?

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Adorable2018 · 15/12/2018 01:04

Ah we do. Maybe not as many as we should cos we come back earlier for babysitters.

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Weenurse · 15/12/2018 01:05

A bit cheeky

OldWomanSaysThis · 15/12/2018 03:17

Why are you not going out with him?

CoolGirlsNeverGetAngry · 15/12/2018 03:21

I would make plans. Lots of plans. Even if it involves sitting in a coffee shop/ food outlet with a book or something. What did you say when he told you about the two women?
You might need to bin him.

LizzieSiddal · 15/12/2018 08:40

So he’s come in at 4 in the morning for the last 5 sat nights?

That’s not being a good father. I assume he’s not up and about on Saturday morning with his children?

Lottie35 · 15/12/2018 16:07

If you're posting such a question then you know the answer.

Chloe84 · 15/12/2018 17:18

I think you need to stop babysitting. His reaction will be telling.

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