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Help with troubles

3 replies

BWrose · 14/12/2018 21:12

I need to get a little help please.

I have one sister. She cut herself off from the whole family, one by one.

The family has received outrageous abuse from her from the past number of years. I could list everything here but I won't bother or I will be here all night.

I went to the cops to report what was harassment from her. The cop that I dealt with said it's a civil matter because there's no violence from her and there's no threats of violence. I sought further advice about that and speaking in a casual context to a retired cop he explained things. The majority of their days is spent attending to suicide scenes or dealing with people and drugs. What we are experiencing as a family comes under domestic abuse and it's all psychological abuse from her. Cops would need to deal with domestic abuse cases involving violence. For example, a wife and an abusive husband where the wife is hit around regularly but she still has to get up in the morning and look after young kids. So our case, it's at the bottom of the pecking order.

I can't afford to take a civil matter to court. The family also have other problems and can't chip in here for a civil case.

There's a new development.

The family has implemented measures like changing numbers and blocking on social media and she's left us alone somewhat. However, my employer is now getting around of abuse from my sister. All to target me.

OP posts:
Lozzerbmc · 15/12/2018 09:13

This sounds awful for you. I’m not sure what to suggest about the fact that your sister is contacting your employer. Perhaps she will not persist? Can citizens advice offer any advice to you?

NotTheFordType · 15/12/2018 09:20

Bollocks. Even S Yorks police are better than this.

Did your abused ex, sorry sister, believe any of this?

user1468348545 · 15/12/2018 10:13

You can go to the court and file a non molestation order yourself. You would need to write out a statement explaining why you feel she's a threat and why you want the protection. Fill out the forms and file them to the court. You'll sit before a judge and they'll make a decision. She will get a chance to defend. This is a basic explanation but I did this with an ex and got granted an emergency order the same day, a 3rd party served the papers. Then 2 weeks later he had the chance to defend and the judge set a final order. Wasn't a nice process but it was relatively simple.

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